You’ll Understand If You’ve Been Abandoned

Normally I would do a Resource Friday today and give you a resource for personal development. But given the significance of today being Good Friday, I elected to give you a look into my walk of faith. I hope you let me know about yours in the comments!

I grew up in the church and because of that, I frequently have a difficult time fully understanding the magnitude of what Christ did for me on the cross. He was utterly abandoned. I struggle with it throughout the year because I know that I take it for granted. But even more so, I struggle with it around Easter because that’s when Jesus actually took on our sins.

Sometimes I wish I could experience what it’s like to become a new Christian — to experience that overwhelming gratitude for what Christ did. 

I always try to force myself to understand Easter’s significance but it always proves to be a challenge. I had a realization this past year, though.

I have some incredibly close and deep friendships. My close friends and I don’t have shallow relationships – they’re deep and continue to deepen. For purposes of this blog post, I’ll talk specifically about my groomsmen (I talk about the depth of these friendships in my book Graduated and Clueless). These guys are tough and strong. They encourage me in ways that others don’t. They are part of the reason that I have a strong faith.

Similarly, my dad and I have a very deep relationship. He taught me how to become a man. He taught me my faith along with my mom, but having that male example in my life is partly what led me to take my faith as my own.

Having said that, this was my realization:

If my groomsmen abandoned me in the face of difficulty, my strength would be severely threatened. And if my very own dad turned his back on me, it would be only by God’s grace and sustaining love that I could continue on.

I would feel unbelievably lonely and abandoned. The reason I say this is because this has been the first time in a very long time that I have (somewhat) been able to begin to comprehend what Jesus experienced on Good Friday.

The utter abandon jesus felt

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Jesus’ twelve closest friends (with whom He spent every waking moment) abandoned Him when He needed them. One denied that he even knew Jesus, one betrayed Him to His enemies, and the rest ran away. His own dad abandoned Him. 

“And about the ninth hour Jesus cried out with a loud voice, saying, ‘Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?’ that is, ‘My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?'”

Matthew 27:46

I can kind of begin to understand that loneliness. And if you’ve ever been abandoned, you can understand even better. What I can’t comprehend is experiencing that while being physically beaten beyond belief and simultaneously carrying the weight of the world’s sins.

I am incredibly grateful for the life that we can receive if we give our lives to Christ. I just struggle with understanding the weight of my sin and what He had to suffer for it.

My life for his

What’s unbelievable is the worth that God places on our lives individually. When I purchase something, I’m saying that it is worth the value of money with which I am purchasing it. With Christ’s death, God placed the value of each of our lives with that of Christ’s. He equaled our value to that of His own son.

The weight of sin is significant but if you have knowledge of what comes on Easter Sunday, there is an immense comfort that comes with it. Sin didn’t win when it seemed like it did. Look at Luke 24 for the account of the resurrection.

How do you prepare your heart and mind for the Easter Season? 

I want to hear from you in the comments! And as always, if you found value in this post, give it a like and me a follow!

And Happy Easter, everyone!

– Caleb

Thanks to Rene Asmussen from Pexels for the feature photo!

4 thoughts on “You’ll Understand If You’ve Been Abandoned

  1. This was so good. This really hit “Sometimes I wish I could experience what it’s like to become a new Christian — to experience that overwhelming gratitude for what Christ did.” , although I am grateful for my spiritual maturity, the sweetness and pain of the cross is something I wish I could feel even more as I did in my early days of Christianity.


  2. I have the same problem at times of knowing what Christ truly did for us and understanding it all. I think we won’t fully comprehend it until we see Him face to face. Also I was raised up going to church, so I heard about what God did for us, but it wasn’t until I was nine years old, that I accepted Jesus into my life, and begin to slowly understand all that He did and all that He will do. Its really amazing and humbling to know that He gave His life for us, when we totally do not deserve it.


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